The general shape of a meeting
Most meetings last about an hour. They typically open with a short statement about the fellowship and a reading of the steps or traditions, followed by announcements about upcoming meetings and local events.
From there, a meeting usually takes one of two forms: a speaker meeting, where one or two members tell their story, or a discussion meeting, where a topic is raised and members share their own experience with it.
Open and closed meetings
An open meeting can be attended by anyone, including a family member, friend, or someone who is simply curious. A closed meeting is limited to people who identify as having a desire to stop drinking or using.
Formats are not identical between groups. Some meetings are step studies, some are literature-focused, some are gender-specific or language-specific, and some are beginner meetings aimed at newcomers. The listing or the group's own page states which it is.
Confidentiality and what you can say
What is said in a meeting is expected to stay there. Anonymity is a cornerstone of both fellowships: members do not repeat who they saw or what was shared. That expectation applies to guests at open meetings as well.
You are free to share as much or as little as you want, and "I would rather just listen today" is a complete answer.
After the meeting
Many groups stay for a few minutes afterwards to talk, and that is often where people find a phone number, a sponsor, or a suggestion for the next meeting. If you would rather leave quietly, that is equally normal.
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